Patience is a virtue, a virtue that a lot of people do not have. And I will be the first to admit that I am the most impatient person I have ever known in my life.
I want to know the ending of every book, movie or TV show the moment I start reading or watching it. I can’t stand waiting in a slow moving line without fiddling with my phone or looking for a quicker escape route, and the impatience rolls over into my sex life.
I know what I want, and I want it right then. I’ve only been in one adult relationship in my life and it only lasted a total of two months. The rest of my college relationship status can be summed up in one category, hooking up.
As adults, most of us are mature enough to know what we are looking for in a relationship and if both people are ok with the arrangement, I find nothing wrong with satisfying our natural needs.
I am in no way throwing myself at anyone and everyone who walks down the street, but I do know what I am looking for when I go on dates, and not every date ends in one night stand, in fact they rarely do. I like to know the person I am sharing such an intimate part of myself with more than what they had for dinner that night, or if they thought the movie stood up to it’s hype.
If I feel connection it might happen, or I may want to wait to see if the connection ever sparks.
Erin Gillingham, junior social work major, agrees that hooking up is something that varies from person to person depending on their own standards.
“It varies with each person on how long they wait before having sex with their partner,” Gillingham said. “If both people agree on what they want a one night stand might be the perfect scenario, or they might want to wait a little longer.”
Even though most people I know may not take part in casual sex, they aren’t against the activity. While talking to people around campus, most people agreed that as adults we are mature enough to make responsible decisions. Sophomore nursing major Shelby Long has a very different outlook on hooking up.
“No one-night stands ever,” Long said. “They don’t know the person, and you are judging them based on physical factors only. It’s not worth the emotional or biological risk.”
As long as you play by the rules and always keep the interactions safe, then the decision is up to you. Know the risks you run by moving too quickly, and if you decide to wait, just know that it is better with anticipation, as long as you have the patience.
