While walking to class, I partially overheard a group’s conversation.
They were discussing how long after a relationship ends should one wait before entering the next. I personally do not understand this concept.
Why are we placing rules on when it is appropriate to move on? In my opinion, society should not be empowering even more shackles upon the general public.
Instead, we should all mind our own business. Yes, in some cases people tend to move on rather quickly. In other situations, however, some take much longer to make that leap.
This amount of time relies solely on the individual. If a person moves on to their next relationship within a few days, the previous relationship was probably over for them far before separation.
I have heard of two rules myself and each are equally ridiculous. The first states that you must wait half the length of the relationship.
For example, if one were in a dedicated relationship for 18 years, they must wait nine years before committing themselves to another.
The second rules for each week of the relationship, one must wait a day. If the relationship lasted two months, one would wait hardly more than a week. By placing such rules, we are only tightening the chains.
Society should have absolutely no say in who we care for, or when we can be considered a couple. What about the cases where one person leaves someone for another?
Once again, why is it our business? Who are we to say when someone can love? Who are we to say who a person can love? These rhetorical questions are the key.
It is not our place. We all have such high expectations of relationships, and I blame Hollywood. Because of movies, everyone seems to believe love is magically perfect.
If someone jumps from one relationship to the next, they’re breaking the pattern of these beautifully written and commonly fictional stories.
I think it’s about time we wake up and realize that stories like the Notebook simply do not happen every day. We aren’t going to find that Cinderella love story just because we follow some stupid dating rules.
