At first I regretted it once it was over, but then I realized it was simply time well wasted because it was pointless but I also learned a lot about myself and others – specifically the opposite sex.
I dated the same guy for over two years, and in the end the only thing I was completely sure of was that I was so glad to be out of it. Not because it was the worst thing in the world or because he was abusive or anything ridiculous like that. Simply because I knew it wasn’t going anywhere, and it definitely was not helping either of us.
We didn’t start to crumble until right before my senior year.
It was only for one overall, general reason too; I was growing up, and he still hadn’t.
I got my first job. I was looking at colleges. I was making plans for my future. I was thinking more analytically. I was spending more time with my friends because I knew we would never be as close as we were at that moment in our lives. Most importantly, I realized if I’m going to spend so much time with someone I should not only look forward to it, but enjoy it too.
I wasn’t doing either at this point. I was changing, growing and learning, and he was still the same as two years beforehand.
There wasn’t anything necessarily wrong with this, but it wasn’t what I wanted anymore. Now I have been “attachment-free” for almost a year and I have loved it.
When I see people my age in relationships I just want to yell in their face and say “Get out while you can!”
Of course there are always those few couples that seem “perfect,” and they end up getting married after dating all through college, which is fantastic for them.
But for the rest of you, there is no need to be in a serious relationship right now. They add too much unnecessary drama and problems that no one needs right now on top of everything else going on.
Then they just end anyways. That is just sad. This is our time to have fun and venture out, not be caught up in dramatic issues that we don’t have to be a part of anyways.
Maybe in a few years we can worry about the serious stuff. You only go through college once – hopefully – so live it up.
